The reason Xander was unable to accept that some vampires could be good was because of what happened with Jesse in the very beginning of the series. Although they never mentioned him later, he was originally portrayed as a very close friend to Xander, and Xander was the one who had to kill him. He was able to do this because he knew that he was not killing Jesse but the monster that was using his body. He had to separate vampires from the people they used to be, or he couldn’t have killed his friend like that. So then when people were telling him that sometimes vampires could be good, he couldn’t accept that. Because then why couldn’t Jesse have been good? Why did he have to die?
That’s why this show is never cut and dry, black and white, it’s as gray as they come. Xander may act all happy go-lucky blah ti blah blah. But (comics may have explored this for about a page) Xander will never forget how he killed his bestfriend. All of this ensouled vampires, only reminds him that he might have gotten his bestfriend back. That dusting him means he’ll never see him again, ever. So he decides that no, ensouled or not, you’re still a vampire and he’ll never forget that.
So it’s frustrating for us without a bias, but I reaaaally don’t think you can do any better when you’re faced with the same situation of killing your bestfriend, AND THEN REALIZING… maybe you didn’t have to after all.
Cordelia was just as awful to Xander as he was to her.
Cheating is cheating, and nothing will ever excuse that. I see where Xander is coming from, and I understand how it all happened because I’m a sucker for the bestfriend that became lovers in the end kind of story… but Xander cheated.
I wish Cordy got back together with him just like Oz and Willow because I shipped them so so so much, but Cordy doesn’t have to. She forgave him in the end, sure, at least I think so, and that’s more than what Xander deserves.
(This is coming from a Xander-stan by the way. You can like someone and see their mistakes, okay?)
six favourite moments | Willow & Xander asked by bswans
“Buffy and the Scoobies take aim at your heart and will have you begging for more!”
six favourite moments | Xander & Oz asked by vaultnumber713 and band-candy
How can I express my love for thee? Let me count the ways!
First off, dayuuumn Season 9 is good. I am so thankful for this wonderful chance to still have one of my favorite shows ever to still be alive and pumping after so many years. I’m glad that we’ve got the comics, so very glad. But I do have thoughts, so many thoughts about this one that I feel the need to express!
First of all, yay! I’m finally caught up with the rest of the fandom (well those who are caught up and interested anyway). It just feels very nice that I’m with everyone else as they discover Buffy, and that this fandom will probably not die, at least not for a very, very long time.
Second of all, dude, I loved it! Why?
(SPOILERS UNDER THE READ MORE)
I love Xander.
He’s like family to me. There are so many times that I cannot stand him, and I want to beat him with a stick for all of his words and choices. But like family, I can’t help but love him still, in the end.
Xander is just the ultimate sarcastic boy-next-door. From the very beginning, I can’t help but adore him because he’s just so human. In a world of supernatural, he’s the ultimate human stuck in the world of war between demons and slayer and other supernatural events. People always hate him for his wrong choices, but let’s see you do better? Let’s see you react to vampires and demons better?
There were only three instances that I’ve gotten so angry unforgivable at him. The first was when he got angry at Angel for biting Buffy. I understood it sure, I got it. I mean Buffy was his friend and she almost died because of Angel. I get the anger and the pain. But it was mostly because of his words that broke the camel’s back. His words, for me, where the catalyst that made Angel leave Buffy. I don’t blame Xander for that, sure. It was still Angel who did the leaving… but still. I wonder what would have happened to Bangel if Buffy’s friends were a little more forgiving.
Second was when he told Spike off for bringing flowers for Joyce. But again I get it. I understand. Evil vamp, and then finding out what he did to Buffy? The whole chaining thing? Of course, if I was in his place, I’d think the same thoughts (except I probably won’t, because I’d have the biggest crush on Spike and I’d probably try to steal the vamp all to myself - which sometime I think Xander has a crush on him too, you sly dog). Still, I hated it. I was so angry at him at that time.
Third was when he took part in the whole kicking of Buffy out of the house. But then again, I’m pretty much angry with everyone then, except for Spike. Nobody hurts my girl like that, and gets away with it. This is the only time where I don’t understand why he did that, didn’t understand the need for it.
What I’m trying to say is that… other than the last one, I totally understand why he reacted that way. Why he was like that, because he was human. Human beings aren’t the most perfect of people, and he isn’t perfect. But he tries, and he tries so hard to do his best, but he keeps failing. He keeps letting his emotions get in the way.
But I can relate to him the most out of everyone in the show.
Because I’m a crappy human being too. I’m a human being who makes such colossal mistakes, and I am so thankful that I have friends who love me so much that they’ll still love me no matter what. Sure I’ve never dated a demon before, and I’ll probably never leave my significant other at the altar, but still, I get it. I understand all of his reasons, all of his feelings, because I’ve been there. Less with the supernatural but more of the human being, I’ve been there.
That’s why I love Xander.
This is one of those moments where I am in complete awe of Giles’ voice. Like complete and utter awe of it.
Gosh, his voice is just so sexy, isn’t it?
SPIKE: Found Ben’s room at Glory’s. Didn’t learn much.
XANDER: Wait - Ben? At Glory’s? You’re saying that all this time he was sub-letting from her?
SPIKE: This is gonna be worth it.
(5x21: The Weight of the World)